Yoga teaches us a lot, more than just flexibility and strength. The practice itself is about mindfulness. A few weeks ago, as the class came to a close and I lay on my mat, I listened as my teacher read us an excerpt. “Trust the timing of your lesson,” she said. “Trust that you will receive exactly what you need to receive, when you are ready. Not before then, not after.” What a powerful lesson.
I’ll bet you can be like me, often beating yourself up for not having seen something sooner, or not having done things differently after the last four or five (or eight!) times didn’t work. I have high expectations for myself, I admit. I know who I am, I know what I want, and I can be pretty hard on myself when things aren’t moving the way I think they should. But listening to these words, absorbing their meaning, I had an “aha” moment.
It wasn’t that I wasn’t learning. It was that it wasn’t time. For that lesson, anyway. But when you look back at significant moments in your life, you can always take something important from it. Hindsight is 20/20 they say. Most of the time we use that expression to chide ourselves, groan and wish we could have done something differently, seen something sooner. But there’s more to it than that.
Hindsight is 20/20! Look back at your moments, and for just a minute, forget about the part you wish you would’ve known. Give yourself a moment, and think about what you learned. I guarantee there is a lesson in there, and most likely an important one.
There are a lot of things that happened in my life that I could wish undone. But at some point, I realized that I needed each and every one of them. They all serve as building blocks for all the important things in my life. Each moment builds upon the last, and is leading me to the person I ultimately want to, and will, become. I would not be who I am today for not having gone through all those little individual moments along the way. As inconsequential as they seemed at the time, they became part of the platform for the person I was to become.
So, looking back, I can smile a little, relax a little. There was a bigger plan happening than the one in my mind. Sometimes pushing so hard to just get through isn’t going to help us at all. Sometimes we just need to stand back and accept the situation as it is. Not so that we give up, but more so that we can reassess. Change our perspective. See things from a different angle. Maybe there is something in that particular moment that we need before we can move on. Regardless of whether or not we see what that meaning is, just trust the moment. We will get where we need to go, when we need to get there. Until then, smile a little, loosen up a little. It’s hard to enjoy the moment for what it is when we are busy reprimanding it (or ourselves) for it not being what we thought it should. So let go. Trust the timing.